What is subspace? It is something I hear discussed a lot but I don’t think I’ve really experienced it. It is one of those things that people say if you don’t know for sure that you’ve gone there, then you haven’t. So if that is the case, I haven’t.
Here is Urban Dictionary’s definition:
In a D/s relationship, that very special place the submissive enters when he/she totally trusts his/her Dominant, and totally immerses in an intense scene. The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point.
It is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dom’s responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to “vanilla space” after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, “aftercare”.
Some describe it as an out of body experience. The scene gets so intense physically and/or emotionally that you go into a different headspace and totally zone out. A feeling of “floating” or “flying.” The pain of the spanking becomes blurred, some sensations are dulled and others heightened. Letting go to a point where you stop thinking and all you do is feel. I’ve heard it described as a chemical reaction. Spanking produces endorphins which give you a high. Pain produces adrenaline which partially suppresses the pain, allowing you to take more. The two in combination help create a euphoric state.
It seems to be an end goal for a lot of people. I know it’s something I’d like to experience. I’ve had some intense scenes and some very emotional ones but haven’t experienced anything quite like what I hear described by others. But it also seems to be a little different for each person. It’s not easy for me to get to a point of completely letting go. The spanking would probably have to be fairly long to get me to that point, and the spanker would need to be able to really get into my head. It seems to be one of those things that have to just happen, be with the right person and under the right circumstances. Then if the planets all align, one can achieve subspace. Is it an unreachable goal? I don’t know. I’ll keep you posted if I find out otherwise.
On a different note, this is my 50th post! I wasn’t sure where this blog would take me when I started it back in February and I’ve really loved writing here. Thank you to all who have read, all the other bloggers I’ve interacted with who I also enjoy reading, and all the lurkers too. 😉 I hope you’ve all enjoyed it as much as I have!
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