It’s that time again when I’m thinking back on everything that has happened this past year. 2012 has been a looong year and I can’t say I’m sad to see it go. There’s been some good, some bad, and quite a bit of spanking. Between job stress, major health issues in my family, and divorce, thank God for the fun parts! I suppose the spanking goes in the good category as well, but I’m trying to do a play on words of the Clint Eastwood movie so work with me here. 🙂
This was a year of big changes and new things for me. J and I separated and later in the year were legally divorced. I am not good with change and this was a huge one. Everything from getting used to living alone again to all my insecurities about myself coming to the surface have been issues to deal with. In the long run I know it’s all for the best and I’m thankful it happened under cordial circumstances, but it’s an ongoing process and not always an easy one.
A notable good thing this year was getting involved in my local community. I have attended SCONY events out East since 2009, but had never attempted to find any sort of scene near me. Part of that was because I figured no other spankos existed in this state. Another reason was worrying about anonymity. I didn’t want to be running into my neighbor or boss at a party, though if that happened we’d both be there doing the same thing so would it really matter?
I searched FetLife for stuff in my area and found a whole slew of groups and activities. Many were not at all related to my kink, but there were things for everyone like munches as well. I bit the bullet and attended my first munch in February and things took off from there. The people I’ve met have been great and I’ve made some awesome friends. I’ve been to many munches and parties since then and even tried some new things. I’m terribly shy and not very good at starting conversations, much less talking long enough to initiating playing with someone, but that’s a whole different post. Lol.
One of the wonderful people I met locally is S. He’s special enough to get his own paragraph and everything! We’ve been playing regularly since meeting and he’s one of just two people I’ve been spanked by here. How two quiet shy people like us even first initiated a scene I’m still not sure. Lol. He is a great top and a great guy. S, thank you for your patience and understanding and for always making me laugh. It means a lot to me.
In the spanking world, I went to three big events this year. I attended the SCONY weekend in the mountains in April and again in October. I always have a great time and wish I could see those friends more often. I miss you all so much! So many great conversations, laughs, spankings, and memories. October was the first weekend since Pinky’s passing and seeing how everyone pulled together was another reminder of how SCONY is like a big family. It’s such a great group of people and the love and support for each other is clearly evident.
I also went to my first Shadow Lane over Labor Day weekend. Driving to Las Vegas alone was something new since usually I don’t even use freeways. I made it and thankfully a few of my SCONY friends came too so I wasn’t alone with 200 people I didn’t know. Joey was among them and I was really happy to have him around as my talker or I probably wouldn’t have met anyone! Lol. I met many bloggers I follow like Erica Scott, Beth, Richard Windsor, Alex, and SpankCake. Everyone was incredibly nice. I also tried (and damaged) my hand at topping as you can see on the left. Some things only need to be experienced once!